This week I want to focus on some Emotional Recovery or Healing. I initially was going to combine anxiety and stress together. But I believe they are impactful individually and warrant their own Blog post. So today I will start with anxiety.
We all have it at some point of our life and some people have such a level of it that it’s active most of their day. Anxiety has been a part of my life … actually for so long I don’t even remember when it wasn’t there. It has been so part of my life that it actually seems like my friend. Not a friend I want to keep or hold onto. Not a friend that I’m glad I developed a relationship with. But nonetheless it has been such a part of my life … that it seems like it’s my friend.
But I’ve decided I want a divorce from this friend. I’m parting ways. The crazy thing is this friend just doesn’t want to go. He or she wants to hold on. I think though I haven’t been serious enough about not wanting this friend around any more.
Did you ever have a relationship that you don’t really want to pursue any longer but you really haven’t been upfront about it? Haven’t been forthright about expressing your desire to end the relationship. Ending relationships can be done nicely. They don’t have to be mean or hurtful. You just need to be decisive. It can’t be done passively. Because then the friend doesn’t go away and you are complaining that they are still around. Yet you didn’t communicate clearly that it’s over.
Well I’m going to communicate clearly to my friend that our relationship is over. Anxiety, you are no longer my friend. I don’t want you in my life. It’s time for you to move on and move out. Does this mean I will never feel anxious again? Absolutely not! But I’m learning that when anxiety comes up again, I don’t need to hold onto it. I need to get some tools in my travel bag to have with me so when it decides to come back; I know how to release it. I may need to do this again and again and again. But that’s ok. I’m up for the challenge. Want to join me? Keep reading.
Life for me growing up has been difficult (one day I’ll tell my full story). I’ve experienced just about every abuse there is. So growing up was rid with fear and anxiety. I believe as a child I welcomed the anxiety in as a way to protect me. I let anxiety rule in my life as a way to say “back away, danger, don’t venture, stay put, don’t go there, don’t do it.” Get the picture. The only problem was that this friend took a little too much control and began applying himself to areas of my life where I shouldn’t being responding in that fashion. I should have developed, grown and felt challenged to do new things. Instead, I listened to this friend and it held me back.
Now in my adult life, I became aware that I live most of my time in the sympathetic nervous system (that fight or flight mode) and not in the para-sympathetic nervous system and it is affecting my body. I’ve dwelt with high blood pressure, slightly elevated cholesterol and many, many sleepless nights.
Our bodies are a beautiful machine; created by an awesome God! It is His desire that we live in health … divine health. Our God is so awesome and so powerful that He truly can chose to miraculously heal us from all our diseases and health issues. But I believe it’s a partnership. He wants to partner with us to not only bring that healing to our body, but have it sustain itself. If God were to choose to zap the anxiety out of my body (which He could very well do), unless I learn a new way to handle it when it comes upon me again, I’ll be back where I started.
So what can we do to be rid of stress? I’ll not be able to cover all the option here. But hopefully these can propel you to get started. They key to every and any health issue you have is to do your own research. Don’t rely simply on what you Doctor tells you. There is so much information out there that he cannot possibly keep up with everything. I remember back in the early 2000’s when I was homeschooling, I attended a homeschool convention in Orlando Florida. It was a fabulous convention and I left every year full of wisdom. One of the classes I attended was on how to teach your children to research. Because learning how to research is key as we moved forward in life. Being in the information age, there simply is too much information out there to keep up on it all. She said that in order for a Physician to keep up on all new medical procedures, medications and diseases, they would have to read 250 periodicals a day!!! A day!!! Who can do that? So it behooves you to do your own research. Educate yourself. Be an informed consumer … after all it’s your health.
HOW TO GET STARTED
Food – Be cautious with the foods you are eating and the beverages you are drinking.
Meats with sodium nitrate and sodium sulfate
High Fructose Corn Syrup
MSG (E621, Yeast Extract or 50 other names
Foods with BHA/BHT
Sodas (especially diet)
Farm Raised Fish
Hydrogenated Oils or Trans-fats
I am saying you cannot have a cup of caffeinated coffee again or a blueberry muffin? No. But for now until you get your body in a more calming state, stay away from the foods that can excite you … that are neurotoxins.
Eat These Foods Without Worry
Whole real foods in their natural form
Fresh vegetables (especially leafy greens)
Fresh fruit (especially oranges or other citrus fruits
Meats that are non-antibiotic/hormone injected
Whole Grain Breads
Wild Caught Salmon
Sleep – be sure you are getting 7+ hours a night of sleep. This is critical. Your body needs to be in that relaxed state to replenish itself. Much healing occurs in your body when you are sleeping. Make this a must!!
Turn off the computer, iPad, tablet, cell phones and TV at least one hour before bed. The blue ray light from these electronics play havoc on your melatonin and makes your body think it’s still early. Hence you don’t easily fall asleep or sleep well. Are you one of those individuals that hit the pillow and are out like a light? Well that’s not good. It means your body is in exhaustion mode. You need to lie down and relax before you go into that sleeping state.
Get yourself into some type of exercise program or activity. You don’t have to join a gym but you need to do something physical to get the stresses out of your body. This is one area that is really hard for me. I hate to exercise. Did I say hate? Yes, I hate to exercise. And even though I’m a Health and Wellness Coach and know the importance of this activity, I struggle.
Anyone want some accountability? We can join forces and motivate each other. This afternoon I wanted to take a break from writing this Blog so I put on my headphones to do The Listening Program and decided to take a power walk. It was nice outside. It was about 55 degrees (that’s nice for CT). I was able to walk my cul-de-sac about 3 times while doing my program. It was quite refreshing.
How’s your job? Are you enjoying what you are doing or is it causing you anxiety? This is important to look at. We spend a great deal of time working. If we are anxious for those 8+ hours, we are really causing harm to the health of our body. Consider a new job if the one you are in is causing anxiety.
Where are you Spiritually? Do you have a spirit filled life? This is important. For me I’m a believer in Christ and if it wasn’t for that belief and faith in Him, I know I’d be in a worse place emotionally. The trauma of my past, the trauma of my divorce, the stress of starting my own business, dealing with two elderly parents who are medically challenged would have put me under. Knowing He would help me get through each and every issue was so important to my life.
We all must have a belief in something greater than ourselves; someone stronger than us; someone more powerful than mankind. I’ve chosen Christ. If you have no spiritual life, it would be important to look at that.
Supplements can be helpful to aid in the release of anxiety. A few ideas such as Ashwagandha and Magnesium.
This Blog post would be incomplete if I didn’t add doTerra Essential Oils to the mix. Essential Oils are such powerful oils to help aid in the release of anxiety.
What are some of those beneficial Essentials Oils:
Sometimes you need to try them out and see which Essential Oil works best. What may work for me may not work for you. Experiment with the oils and see which one or ones brings relief.
As I wrap up this writing, my hope and pray is that you will make yourself a priority and not allow the stress to continue to manifest in your body. TI pray that you will realize you are important, you are special, you are loved and you are worth living a life that is anxiety free.
Come along with me on this journey, as I will keep you posted as to the steps I’m taking to finally have my “friend” go away.
If you would like to do a Health History to perhaps get a better picture of where you stand health wise, contact me. Right now I’m running a special and am doing them at no charge. Would love to have you join my journey.
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